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  • 27th May 2021 at 6:13 pm #551741

    Our best friend for 14 years who went everywhere with us including work, breathed his last a week ago. We got him from Battersea and he died in Mme B’s arms. He has left a huge hole in our lives but we have so many great memories.

    Sorry for your loss. Try to balance the good times with the sadness you feel now and I am sure you all came out winners in the end. I just wish they lived longer.

    28th May 2021 at 9:32 am #551761

    Just caught up with this post – a bit bittersweet – so pleased you have found that beautiful dog JP, he’s gorgeous, and even more pleased that he has found you! I do so hope that it all works out for the three of  you :rose:

    Our best friend for 14 years who went everywhere with us including work, breathed his last a week ago. We got him from Battersea and he died in Mme B’s arms. He has left a huge hole in our lives but we have so many great memories.

    I am so sorry for your loss Bonjour, our Conny is 14 in July and we’re dreading that day coming. We can only ever be thankful for the unconditional love they give and the joy that they bring into our lives. Treasure the memories you have and try and concentrate on the happy times you’ve shared. :heart:

    31st May 2021 at 8:25 am #551980

    Well after some difficult days I have reluctantly decided I have to return my new dog to the rescue centre. He has a nice nature but he is totally wild and I cannot control him. He has knocked me down several times trying to play and he can leap over 1.5 metre fences so I cannot keep him in. My other dog finds his constant attention too much as well, he just has boundless energy and he doesn’t respond to even simple commands. Sadly I have to admit defeat with this dog, I need to find an older, smaller one. I feel I am letting him down but he is sadly just too much for me.

    31st May 2021 at 8:42 am #551983

    It happens John…we have rescued several older dogs ,trying to give them a good few years,often after many months in a refuge.

    Only once did we have to return a dog….it hurts..but it was the right thing to do…he was homed afterwards to a farm where he was happy.

    You tried and I,m sure they will find another solution.


    31st May 2021 at 9:06 am #551989

    Pity it didn’t work out for you, but at least you tried. Better luck next time.

    31st May 2021 at 9:40 am #551997

    Looking back, this fostering was done too quickly, I was not aware of the full story and that was partly my fault as I was anxious not to lose the chance to take him as he looks such a lovely dog, which he is. The reality now is that my other dog finds him too excitable and lively as do I. I would have to chain him up as he chews through leads and rope in seconds, and can leap my fencing at will. I have to watch him constantly as he is into everything within his extended reach. He is affectionate, loving and clean but just too much of a handful for me to cope with. I am really sad that I cannot keep him but I have to be realistic for my and my other dog’s sake and for his. :cry:

    31st May 2021 at 9:41 am #551998

    Hi John P , we had to think long and deep when we adopted our present dog . He was a puppy with a life expectancy of probably more than 10 years and we are not young anymore . :-)

    It’s wonderful to adopt a dog but too often you see dogs that outlive their owners and that is not really great for the dog .

    4 days is not a long time to try with a dog , especially a young one . It took us months before we had our friend trained so that we were all happy . Perhaps take in an elderly dog that has the same life expectancy as yourself ? :rose:


    31st May 2021 at 10:12 am #552003

    Rehoming a dog is such a difficult decision. Compared to the English, some of the French (though not all) treat their dogs absolutely appallingly.

    At our last house, our neighbouring young farmer whose own temperament left a lot to be desired took on a beautiful golden labrador  puppy which he kept chained to a barn all day. He would often break his chain and come up to see us and our dogs almost, as if, imploring us to take him on board. With two dogs and three cats and thinking about moving, this really wouldn’t have worked out.

    In the September we were having a family reunion at the house and we were about to go out for the day. As we were leaving, we saw the young dog sitting by a building at the bottom of our garden. I rang the farmer and asked him to collect him. When we returned, he was still sitting there in the pouring rain.

    It’s a very long story and if I go through it in detail, I’ll never get anything done today –  but the end of it was that the puppy, who was called Ludo, was taken on by our son Ross in Southampton and now has a wonderful life. They had their first child last August and Ludo has adapted to this change of circumstance superbly.

    So there are happy endings – it’s just such a shame that with all the dogs abandoned over here that there aren’t more.

    31st May 2021 at 10:21 am #552005

    It was always my intention to take a dog of around 3 years and I thought initially that this dog was around two( you often cannot be sure with rescue dogs). It wasn’t until I met him that I was aware of his real age but I was still taken with him. Yes I made a mistake, him being too young and too big but heindsight is a wonderful thing. Having recently lost my wonderful collie and all the heartache that ensues I don’t want to adopt an old dog and have to go through another loss in a couple of years or maybe less. I think a dog of around 3-4 would be a nice age and I could reasonably expect to spend quite a few happy years together.

    I need to resolve the current situation then resume my search for another dog taking on board my latest experiences. We never stop learning.

    31st May 2021 at 1:35 pm #552027

    So sorry it didn’t work out for you and the dog JP, not all rescues are happily ever after stories, but it has to be right for you and for the dog, you tried. Hopefully, someone will take him on that has space and time to work on a plan to harness his energy and channel it into something that he enjoys, such as an agility course for example.

    At our last house, our neighbouring young farmer whose own temperament left a lot to be desired took on a beautiful golden labrador  puppy which he kept chained to a barn all day. He would often break his chain and come up to see us and our dogs almost, as if, imploring us to take him on board. With two dogs and three cats and thinking about moving, this really wouldn’t have worked out.


    That story so reminds me of our English Setter, a friend rang to ask if we could take on another dog (we already had four) A pig farmer in Mayenne (banned from keeping pigs because of cruelty) had bought him for hunting, he was no good at it, so tied him to a disused pig pen and left him, occasionally throwing him an old carcass, he escaped and found the friend of our friend, hence the phone call. He was half his weight when he came to us, hard callouses around his neck from the chain and took us four years to get him over his mental problems but, oh my! What an absolutely gorgeous, loving dog he was, daft as a bat but wonderful!

    We are now at a stage where we are left with just one dog, the first time in our 57 years of marriage we have had just a single dog, as mentioned before she is coming up to 14 yrs old, friends know how we dote on her and we have been asked if, when that fateful day comes, we will get another, we cannot answer that question, Mr F is 83 I am 76, hopefully, we shall be even older when we no longer have Conny, it will be a huge hole in our lives, but it’s a decision we shall have to make when that time comes, we will have to think of what sort of life we can give another dog at the age we will be.


    31st May 2021 at 9:40 pm #552057

    Tonight I delivered my fostered dog to a new home. I have only had him for 6 days but I was sad to hand him over. I couldn’t cope with him but he was a nice dog. I do hope he finds happiness with his new family.

    31st May 2021 at 10:45 pm #552063

    Losing a pet, particularly a dog, after a long life together with them is hugely painful – you’ll think that over a lifetime of having them by your side that it would get easier – it never does – if anything it gets worse.

    When you are retired, and particularly during this lengthy period of isolation, they have become an irreplaceable extension of ourselves. When you’re younger and working, raising a family etc, they are just one part of your life albeit an important one. When you retire your life changes and you find yourself with more time to devote to your dogs and probably any other pets you might have.

    So in old age the thought of maybe losing the last dog you might have becomes pretty much unthinkable. You question, as John P has very wisely done of your ability to cope with a wayward re-homing or the prospect of training a puppy. Both can be fraught with difficulties – and yet, the thought of not having a dog at all is even worse.

    For the last twenty five years or so we have had Border Collies – generally two at a time. Now we are down to one. Django has been us for nearly seven years and we had him as a puppy. Neither of us would deny that he may be the best Collie we’ve ever had (probably because we’ve had much more time for him) but then you tend to say that about all of them don’t you. But Collies are incredibly intelligent, work things out for themselves and generally like to do things their way. The last Collie we lost made it to nearly twenty. If Django keeps going that long, I’ll be pushing on for ninety with Mrs J not too far behind. At that age taking on another Collie might just be too much.

    I may be wrong but people in very old age who find that they simply can’t live without a dog tend to go for smaller breeds – Jack Russells for example. Are they easier? – don’t know – I’ve never had one – my father did and he was an absolute nightmare – that’s the dog, not father!!!

    We’re not looking forward to having to make that decision. I think you just make it at the time as you think right. I’m sure that John P will make the right decision – he has a great deal of experience with dogs. He’s made the right decision now and will make it again when he finds the right dog for him.

    I really wish him good luck.


    31st May 2021 at 10:50 pm #552064

    Me too JJ.

    We have always had dogs and cats but losing our last cats a couple of years back and our last dog four years ago was painful. We don’t wish to go through that again so , no more pets for us unfortunately.

    31st May 2021 at 10:55 pm #552065

    Quite often, it is the dog that finds you

    31st May 2021 at 11:02 pm #552067

    That’s exactly what Ludo did Babeth.

    1st June 2021 at 8:13 am #552071

    Thank you for your messages of support. I must admit I was expecting the odd comment that I didn’t give him long enough or should have thought more before taking him and who knows they may have been justified. I don’t feel good about what has happened, there are no winners in this experience except I have learned a lesson for the future.

    Funny you should mention Jack russels John, I have been offered one by the refuge. It is a female and she is 8 years old. I am not sure about taking an older dog having lost my collie at that age. I really don’t want to bond with a dog only to lose them in a year or so, it is so heartbreaking. Since being in France I have lost three dogs well before their time, two to cancer and one to a heart attack, perhaps I have just been unlucky but it is always in the back of my mind. I will discuss where to go next with the rescue centre in the next few days.

    1st June 2021 at 8:20 am #552072

    No need to be negative John, the important thing is that you are happy and the dog is well looked after.

    1st June 2021 at 9:39 am #552076

    Jack Russells are, as a rule, and barring, of course, such illnesses as cancer, which is not in any way discriminative to age, a very long living breed, if that’s any help JP.

    With the exception of the current one, Conny, all of our dogs have been rescued dogs and all, fortunately for us, long-living, but we have been lucky that illnesses, namely cancer, have not taken them until later in their lives. If one takes your heart, there’s no going back!! As Babeth said the dog often chooses us!

    1st June 2021 at 10:41 am #552089

    I do agree with what Fruitcake has said here – it’s a two way thing. When we get older, taking on an older dog whose owner is maybe not up to looking after it may not be as easy as it seems.

    I would suppose that as we all get older we develop certain opinions and intolerances that maybe we didn’t have when we were younger. A dog can be exactly the same – it’ll just tell you about them in a different way.

    But overall the choice of a rescue dog maybe relating to your own age might be more compatible than taking on a younger one. It seems a lot of people do this and probably this speaks for itself.

    1st June 2021 at 10:49 am #552092

    I hear Jack calling!

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