I’m finding the positivity of this thread so uplifting, despite the tribulations that you have been encountering Fruitcake. I truly hope that I have the same fortitude should I have to deal with something similar in the future. If I do, I will look back & think ‘how would Fruitcake deal with this?’. I feel sure that you don’t realise how amazing you are, but your girls, Mr Fruity, & all of us here see it clearly.
All any of us can hope is that if we are ever in a similar situation to that which Mr F finds himself, is that we have someone with the love and calibre of Fruitcake to care for us and take charge of things.
Should any of us find ourselves in the position of Fruitcake, we can only hope to do as good a job of it as she does.
Hopefully Mr F will be reinvigorated with the anticipation and excitement of their forthcoming move to pastures new.Anonymous30th October 2021 at 6:29 pm #562366
There’s nothing as good as a bit of Fruitcake.
Hello Fruitcake, you are one amazing lady. I have not been following your journey as I have not been on the site for a long while but tonight I read your posts and responses from the start. Well lass, what a journey…Your positivity, strength, determination and passion are awe inspiring. You are clearly loved, respected and valued by your family and by your friends and Mr F, in his time of need, is so clearly the recipient of that same deep love and respect from you and the family. Reading the posts brought to mind something a friend told me some years ago when I was struggling. She told me that Friends are the quiet angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly. Reading the responses to your posts sort of fits this statement. Throughout the period of Mr F’s deterioration in health you have strived to look for solutions and that solution focussed approach of yours has served you, Mr F and your family well. I don’t doubt that you will be missed in France but keep those posts going.. you are inspirational. I should imagine that friends and family are eagerly awaiting your arrival back in England and there they will keep those wings of yours working. It will be a time of great change and new challenges for you, look after yourself my dear lady. Wrap yourself up in all of the love you will find.. soak it up and stay strong. I wish both you and Mr F a safe journey and special times to come. With utmost respect for one awe inspiring lady. Bless you and Mr F. Bon chance good lady.
Oh, Irene what a lovely post! Thank you!
I am so very lucky with all the support I get, there’s all the lovely folk on here with their supportive messages, our girls text me every day with supportive messages, friends do the same with messages. One friend, from whom we buy our logs, turned up with a load of wood the other day to make sure we (well, Mr F really as he feels so cold) are warm, he also finished a bit of concreting I had not had the time to do and brought down from the loft the last of the boxes for me. Another friend has done a couple of runs to the tip for me.
My lovely French neighbour, with whom I have had a wonderful relationship, she & I hit it off from the word go and are on the same page with most things, she, herself a carer for a poorly husband, regularly comes to ask for news about Mr F, nearly always ending with some tears as she speaks of us leaving.
Even the lady who came, with her French fella, to collect the free sofa I’d advertised, telling me she’d just moved into social housing and only had one armchair (I gave her another piece of furniture) has loaned me for five nights a fold-up sprung bed for Mr F to sleep on in the gite. Her man brought it straight back after collecting the piece of furniture. So kind!
The lady in the dialysis centre in the UK has been wonderful, has booked the dialysis AND is booking us transport too!
Everyone has been so very kind and supportive, I do feel so very lucky.
On the update front, Mr F (Baz to his friends – there’s a reason I’m telling you that) is in quite good spirits, despite being barely able to walk, and sleeping a lot of the time. I have ordered him a three-wheeled walking aid, I’ve told him he’s getting his very own Bazmobile! I’ve made him a sticker with 46 on for it (he’s a huge fan of Valentino Rossi) I think our youngest granddaughter might get him some batman stickers for it!! We are both now getting very excited about our forthcoming move!!
I have made two huge shepherd’s pies and put in the freezer, one for when the workforce come to load on the Saturday, the other for the Monday when my other support pair come (eldest daughter and little brother (actually he’s 6’2 and 70 next year but he’ll always be my little brother!)
On countdown now, no doubt I will be in panic mode next week!
Anyone who has followed your posts can have nothing but admiration for you FC. Your strength and ability to cope with anything that lands on you is quite amazing. You make most of our problems pail into insignificance.
I wish you all the luck in the world over the next couple of weeks, you surely deserve it. I am sure you will miss France but this forum and all your friends will still be here for you.
Here I am for a quick Sunday morning scan of posts and here you are you lovely people with such thoughtful messages – thank you, yet again! You can’t know how much support it gives me, but, believe me, it does.
Mr F likes his Bazmobile and boy has he needed it lately, he has become weaker and weaker, I rang the nephrologist and asked if this much weakness is normal (every time I mention it I’m told ‘it’s the dialysis’) “He’s okay when I see him during the dialysis” he smugly said, “Well he is lying down, so he would be, you do know he had a fall in the dialysis centre because he was too weak to keep his balance don’t you?” I replied. He ummed said “Oh” then said he would do a blood test when Mr F had his session of dialysis yesterday. The upshot? His anaemia (an effect of dialysis) despite having weekly injections, is so bad that a taxi is collecting him tomorrow morning at 7 am for a much needed blood transfusion!
Sometimes even the experts need a poke in the ribs (and I always carry a stick just for that purpose!!)
It’s going to be quite a week for Fruity & Mr Fruity!
Hope everything is going smoothly after all the meticulous planning. I’m sure it will.
We are all with you in spirit & are on your journey with you.
Here’s to your new life, cheers!
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